Junesix

Great friends are people who…

Remember your preferences for food/drink stuff and always make your coffee the way you like it
Send you little fun stuff in the mail for no reason
Remember things that are going on in your life and ask you about them
Have some magic ability to give advice when you want it and not when you don’t
Adjust to your level of feeling like you need a friend so if you’re in a bad place, they’re helpful and available, and if you’re busy they’re not overly needily trying to get some of your time
Have their own lives and friends that enrich yours
Don’t talk smack about all their other friends making you wonder if they talk that way about you when you’re not around
Introduce you to other people they think you might like, but also make time to spend time with you one on one
Have a general sense of your family situation and may ask about it without being obtrusive or stalkery
Say nice things for no reason. One of my minor adjustments for me trying to be a good friend is to make a real effort to compliment and also accept compliments gracefully
Don’t dredge up old bad situations and go over them endlessly. Good friends forgive or at least pretend to forget.
Turn the heat up when you are visiting
Are good talkers and listeners and are decent at adjusting when you are feeling like you need to be more one way than the other
Are proud of you and your accomplishments and say so
Don’t always expect 1:1 reciprocation for everything and don’t put you “on the clock” as soon as you ask a question or need advice in their professional specialty
Do things that require effort sometimes like give rides to the airport or helping move
Try to say yes instead of saying no, but can say no without it making you feel bad
Introduce you to new things without pushing you way outside your comfort zone [unless that’s the sort of thing you like]
Can just hang out without there always being some sort of planned activity